For Christmas this year, my kids gave a certificate good for a year of vacuuming. Vacuuming the house has been my regular weekend assignment for years, but lately it has becme more of an ordeal. What used to take me an hour or so, now takes me most of Sunday, and leaves me close to wiped out.
My kids know this, and, all on their own, gave me a year off. While it is a wonderfully thoughtful and generous and kind gesture, it leaves me with some mixed feelings. It makes me sad that my kids feel the need – however well motivated – to take on added duties because of my MS. I applaud the generosity and selflessness in my children, but my resting on the sofa every Sunday will remind me of another thing I can’t do like I used to.
And I have been thinking about how disablity affects the balance of power within a relationship. When one partner cannot do some of the things he used to, the other partner has to compensate and shoulder more of the labor. Disablity affects alomst everything in a person’s life, and the lives of the people around them.
This requires more thought.